NDA’s and Celebrity Culture
Like a scene from the Beverly Hilly Billies, the British press coverage past few days focused our attention away from the anxieties and frustrations of Brexit towards something much more of public interest, celebrity chef Paul Hollywood’s relationship with his now ex girlfriend. I’m sure most of you have had a girlfriend or boyfriend at some point in your lives but never had you been in the position where she would have been instructed by you to sign an NDA No reason too. We are not celebrities not even micro or the latest craze pseudo celebrities. The sort we see virtually daily on our screen from Love Island, TOWIE Celebs Go Dating etc But have you ever made your girlfriend sign a legal document to make sure that they don’t talk about what went on? Or to make sure they don’t talk about your personal life? This smacks of pure distrust oriented towards the instigator of the NDA usually the male. Celebrity but not exclusively.
I’m going to argue that most, if not all, of you have never done this before. It’s crazy to think about…unless you’re a celebrity and all you really care about is what you’re hiding. We are a curious nation motivated by the human desire for gossip searching for real life stories to whet our often insatiable appetites Don’t we all want to know what ingredients were put into the mix by this loving pair and what was put into the oven to bake for a longer time than was necessary? This is what we explore as celebrity psychologists, we want to unravel the motives that drive an aggressive response, usually from the older male against the much younger, usually a few decades younger attractive female To be fair some celebs might just be hiding very personal information that they just don’t want the public knowing because it’s actually none of their business. If so the male or female celebrity would have that right. How often do we wish to disclose all our precious and treasured intimacies before the nation? Private means exactly that, in a serious long term relationship there has to be the foundation blocks well established trust intimacy, love forgiveness. And above mutual respect for each other. However, In our world of celebrity culture mental health has become a much more salient aspect of their everyday lives.We see this in the young royals also, the invasion of privacy the ongoing stress of high profile exposure and a sheer lust for visibility. All part of celebrity psychology.
Apparently, it’s a pretty common thing for celebrities to get their lovers to sign off on keeping their mouths shut about the money they make and the naughty things they do. We have become a nation of voyeurists wanting to know about every salacious detail of celebrities private lives. So, let’s see some examples of some popular celebrities and how they go about keeping lovers quiet about their love lives…though…since we know about it, does that mean it didn’t quite work?
Why do older celebrities males desire young attractive females ?
We are informed by empirical research that psychobiologists like Prof Glen Wilson and many others, that older men seek young women for sound biological reasons. Putting it in the context of mating behaviour the purpose is to produce good pedigree offspring.What would happen if men stopped chasing younger women? Before I deal with the ubiquity of this sexual attraction problem in British and American society,I’m talking about the likes of a A Listers like Johnny Depp when he was dating a young woman of twenty when he was fifty odds.The list is perpetuated by the fact that we simply cannot quantify the number of male celebs who are doing the same as Paul Hollywood.Take our Prime Minister Boris Johnson Leona Di Caprio, and Harrison Ford.so he’s not alone. Only he knows the real motives behind this insatiable state of affairs where following the breakdown of his marriage to Marina, he had already set eyes on the second of his romantic flings,
Are we right to question his recent relationship with Summer and who’s side are we on? We are interested simply because he is a celebrity chef, great looks, deep blue eyes and a hefty bank balance. He has showered her with endless gifts an essential ingredient in the entropy of personality that I see so often in emotionally vulnerable male celebs after the breakdown of a long marriage.
It raises several psychological questions open to empirical scrutiny in that older men are attracted to young women because of their fertility body shape and fitness level. Whether they really intend to produce offspring is anybody’s business, but more recent research shows that it fuels their ego identity, a bit of arm candy nice to have on the red carpet .The strategic reproductive payoffs lessen as the age gap grows significantly wider. I’m sure Paul Hollywood and other male celebrities in his position might agree. The extraction of human motives is a complex matter is a scenario such as this. Did Summer genuinely want a long term ( for how many years 1, 2, 3 4. or less ) relationship with the master Chef , and did she show any real emotional investment in the developing relationship? He took her from a pretty dull life but one that she might well have been happy and satisfied with. From that moment she set eyes on him and he with her, There might have been that initial “love at first sight” but this is the crux of the matter. A young attractive woman would have known was it “Deal or No deal “ and the deal was swiftly done. The suggestion is that he allowed his emotional decision making whatever state it might have been in, to take control over his reasoning powers and hence the pathway to another disaster. Summer would have known the deal and what financial and emotional payoffs she would get out of this for the rest of her life, the press attention, the publicity, amid her incredible coping strategies to handle this situation. As a single woman once again she now has added value in having that celebrity connection, in which she might discount psychologically or utilize to her career benefit. The fact of the matter is, many younger women attracted to men who radiate the power motive, they are in control, they have international charisma and imbued with wealth.
From an ethological perspective we know from scientific research that younger females desire the attention of an older male as he will provide them with security and scarce resources to enable them to survive as women. He was the hunter gatherer as medieval history informs us, but our male ancestors were not hunting out four by fours, Gucci and Louis Vuitton handbags luxury holidays horses chickens and designer fashion. His tribal status physical strength ingenuity and ability to know how to survive did the trick .
While few women today need an older established or even younger man to care for them, independence is within reach of most of our young professional women. They are in control of their lives and this independence gives their ego identity perpetual strength and integrity besides a high level of self perceived competences.
Power and Status
Attraction isn’t cut and dried as people think it is. While women are attracted to physical appearance social status and other power factors play a major role in woman’s attraction. This is why you will see many women having crushes in their older bosses and seeing them as “sexy”. This enables many women to engage in vertical social mobility in the organizational hierarchy, marrying their way to the top.
Wealth and power are very attractive to many women especially in the business world but not exclusively. Many factors are integral to sexual attraction, the males physique facial structure hair and eyes with a huge smile to complement his bursting bank balance.Can’t we see why the young cool Summer with a body like a panther might have been attracted to her dashing celebrity chef Paul Hollywood. Not the sort of guy you’d expect to drop into the bar she worked in. but there he stood, an eye for an eye, the non verbal communication strategy worked as he was like a kid given a huge ice cream on a hot summer day and hot it was. No young twenty year old or even thirty year old would have missed such a once in a lifetime opportunity to inflate their bank balance and fill their one bedroom apartment with luxury items even to the extent of a few extra farm animals and a new pick up truck,forgive the pun.
Psychologically few guys with the exception of hedge fund executives who work excessive long hours in the financial area of Shoreditch, have power and wealth until they achieve vertical social mobility in their early fifties and sixties. The bars and nightclubs in the area are saturated with young enterpreneur’s male and female as the “get rich quick” girlies seek their male suitors. Impulsivity some call it but it’s a more complex than that “ grab him quick and get a date”. There are well thought out social psychological strategies these women utilize to ensure they get their high level financial rewards.
I often hear from young well educated women that guys their own age are devoid of maturity and especially emotional maturity.They are the super immature brigade lusting after women for the quick fix the ONS, then organizing themselves into a group seeking competitiveness in achieving their specific “business targets” . Conversely, these well groomed sophisticated and elegant young professionals encounter males without a job or they are on a temporary contract that does not give the female any potential security in a future relationship.